Have you ever ever been in a bar, or at a celebration, or anyplace, actually, with a man who’s approaching approach too robust? Like he’s pushy, aggressive, gained’t take delicate indicators that you just’re not , and nonetheless pestering you in your quantity? And have you ever ever been tempted to offer him a mistaken quantity, simply to make him go away?

Sure, we’ve all been there, however this give-the-wrong-number technique outcomes solely within the man, at some later date, realizing you’ve dodged him, maybe muttering “bitch,” beneath his breath, and shifting on, by no means studying that his conduct is (or needs to be) unacceptable in well mannered society.

Enter TheMarySue, a weblog that “sits on the nexus of popular culture and the uncharted universe” however that I learn primarily for its takes on gaming, tech, and films. Some genius over there created the world’s first “rejection hotline,” or a cellphone quantity that you just give out to Mr. Skeeve, and that can textual content him the message:

“Oh whats up there. Should you’re listening to this message, you’ve made a lady really feel unsafe and/or disrespected. Please study to take no for a solution and respect girls’s emotional and bodily autonomy. Okay THANKKS.”

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If the man truly telephones the quantity, he’ll hear a recorded message saying the identical factor. Now TheMarySue notes that “The textual content gained’t be routinely despatched, supplying you with sufficient time to GTFO, however it is going to be delivered to their inbox finally,” however I examined the textual content perform and need to level out that it’s delivered inside two or three minutes, so if you happen to’re fearful about hostile blowback, you do need to scram fairly quick. Which, sigh, places the burden on the ladies to depart the enjoyable bar or social gathering as a substitute of the icky man.

For the commenters who’re flexing their fingers and getting ready to kind Why all of the rigamarole? Why gained’t girls simply come out and say “no thanks”?, I’ll simply reply you proper now: As a result of incessantly girls don’t really feel protected outright rejecting males. Some males who’re rejected can flip hostile, or threatening, and even simply petty and butthurt, and girls want to guard themselves from that. So that they attempt to use subtler indicators, like not actively taking part within the dialog, or attempting to inch away, or referencing their “boyfriends”—something to close the interplay down with out frightening anybody.

And if you happen to’re nonetheless satisfied this can be a drawback that ladies ought to resolve simply by being extra forthright? I’ve obtained a quantity so that you can name.


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